Does Failure Make You Unacceptable?

Feelings of failure often plague those who have grown up or are growing up in a dysfunctional, hurtful home. No matter how much you achieve or succeed, there is a constant desire to do or be more. When there is actual failure in some area, there is a disproportionate amount of self-condemnation. When there is actual success, the requirements change, and instead of rejoicing in your success, you burden yourself new requirements. The constant striving and feelings of failure continue.

You demand perfection of yourself to prove your worth to yourself, to someone else, or to God. I have news for you, my friend: God accepts you as you are, knowing you are already perfect in Christ. Your failures are hid in Christ. You have nothing to prove to God. When you fail in your human frailty, God still sees you as perfect and therefore loves you perfectly. 

For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified.                 {Hebrews 10:14}

Being made holy, or "sanctified," is a process of Christian growth which is achieved through applying God's Word to all areas of your life. As you accept the discipline and guidance Christ provides and as you give Him control of your desires, goals, and will, you become more like Christ. The sanctification process is born out of your love for Christ, not because you must prove yourself perfect to be accepted. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, you are perfect in God's eyes, despite the failure of your flesh.

The Apostle Peter failed in his flesh, but God saw him as perfect in Christ. He used Peter to evangelize the Gentiles and two write two books of the Bible.

David failed in his flesh, but God saw his repentance and used him to lead the nation of Israel. God called David "a man after my own heart." David was loved and accepted, not in spite of his sin, but without any regard to it.

God's grace doesn't look at your sins and failures, nor does it look at your good deeds, your "perfection." It looks only on the merit of Jesus Christ.

Grace means we become worthy before we are worthy.